The suppression of anger inevitably leads to destructive consequences.
It is necessary to feel your angry thoughts as a healthy manifestation.
To feel that anger is a universal human phenomenon.
This is one of the main feelings, like a feeling of hunger, loneliness, love or fatigue.
Suppression of anger *truth
Anger is a healthy manifestation, while denial or suppression of anger has a pathological effect.
The suppression of angry feelings inevitably leads to devastating consequences.
Researchers identify four main negative consequences of repressing anger:
- 1. development of psychosomatic symptoms;
- 2. Directing anger against yourself;
- 3. a blast of anger;
- 4. hostile negative behavior.
Let us consider these negative consequences in more detail.
1. When we shy away from our angry emotions, they tend to cause varying degrees of harm to the body. Curbing feelings of discontent creates tension, and this response to stress plays a large role in a wide range of psychosomatic illnesses, such as headaches, hypertension, cardiovascular diseases and oncology. There is evidence that suppressing anger can be a harbinger of cancer.
2. When people suppress a sense of anger, it forces them to turn against themselves with a sense of hatred and self-criticism. If this process reaches serious proportions, it plays an important role in shaping feelings of depression and worthlessness. This can lead, at times, to suicidal behavior. Psychoanalysts traditionally understand depression primarily as anger directed against themselves.
3. People, who are characterized by frequent suppression of anger, often project it onto other people, thereby perceiving others hostilely. This makes them perceive the external environment as alien and dangerous. As a result, they react to imaginary enemies with aggression, which risks developing into paranoia.
4. When people can not realize their angry emotions, they tend to use their anger for other purposes. For them, hostile negative behavior, often even inadequate, becomes characteristic.
Finally, when it is difficult for people to admit their anger directly, instead, they usually begin to feel misunderstood, hurt, morally offended.
This often leads to the fact that angry thoughts persist not only for a long period, but also, in the final analysis, have a detrimental effect on the general outlook on life.
Admit your anger
Anger is perhaps the most underestimated human emotion.
There are many misconceptions about him. Some people perceive anger as a bad and immoral feeling, feel that anger makes them a bad person.
Others believe that anger is the opposite of love, and they think that anger does not take place in close, personal relationships or in the family.
Anger is a natural and inevitable reaction to frustration and stress. The degree of anger is proportional to the degree of disappointment. As the some body rightly pointed out: “If a person never shows anger, then I think that something is wrong.” It is important to understand that anger is a healthy emotion. Angry thoughts and attitudes are perfectly acceptable, while actions must be correlated with moral concepts.
It is very important to be able to express anger, and at times it can have extremely positive effects in personal, professional or social situations.
As a rule, it is better to declare your anger directly in a calm tone. For example, the phrase “I was angry with you when you did so”, pronounced calmly, is more effective than expressed in an angry tone that, as a rule, causes an immediate angry rebuff.
Psychotherapists work hard to help their clients recognize, accept and fully experience their angry emotions and learn how to express them when necessary.
Precisely because suppression of anger can lead to destructive consequences of the human body.